Being a mom, especially a single mom like me, often makes it feel like everything revolves around my child. It’s easy to get lost in the chaos of work, house chores, and constant responsibilities, and sometimes I forget that I need to take care of myself too.

When my 2-year-old is running around full of energy, it’s easy to push aside my own needs.

But I’ve come to realize that self-care isn’t just a luxury—it’s essential, not only for my own well-being but so I can be the best version of myself for my little one.

Finding Support and Not Being Afraid to Ask for Help

One of the first things I did to make self-care a priority was to seek help from those closest to me. I’m lucky to have a family that really understands what I’m going through. 

My younger sister lives with us, and she’s been such a blessing when it comes to helping with the day-to-day. I also have a sister from my child’s dad’s side who lives nearby and has been there for me emotionally and practically.

Honestly, having their support has made a huge difference. With them around, I can get some breathing room—whether it’s catching up on work or simply taking a moment to myself without feeling guilty.

Taking Care of My Body in Simple Ways

When it comes to self-care, taking care of my body is at the top of the list. But with everything on my plate, it’s easier said than done. I’ve learned that if I want to have the energy to keep up with my day, I need to fuel my body properly.

Now, I do my best to eat balanced meals, though I won’t pretend I always have time to make a full-on healthy meal. I make it easier on myself by prepping food over the weekend, so I don’t get stuck scrambling during the week.

Getting Moving: Simple Exercise for Busy Days

I’ve come to realize that moving my body, even just a little, is essential to feeling good. 

As a mom with a packed schedule, it can be easy to put exercise on the back burner. But I’ve learned that it doesn’t have to be anything intense or time-consuming to make a difference.

For me, the simplest form of exercise is going for a walk after dropping my little one off at daycare. It's a small habit, but it’s become a lifesaver in so many ways. That walk is often the only time I get to focus on myself, clear my head, and get my body moving.

It’s amazing how just 15-20 minutes of walking can help me feel more energized, and it gives me a moment of peace before I dive into the busyness of the day. Plus, it’s a great way to boost my mood and clear my mind—especially on the days when things feel overwhelming.

Another habit I’ve made a priority is drinking at least 2 liters of water a day. I know it sounds simple, but it really helps me stay on top of my game. Staying hydrated has made a huge difference in my energy levels, my skin, and just overall well-being.

It's one of those little things that can get overlooked, but trust me, it helps more than you'd think, especially when juggling everything life throws your way. It’s all about finding those small moments to nourish your body, and honestly, it’s been a game-changer for me.

The Struggle with Sleep and Finding Balance

Now, sleep... that’s another story, right? It’s probably the hardest thing to manage, especially as a mom. I mean, who else finds themselves watching just one more episode of their favorite K-drama while the little one naps because that’s the only time you get to relax?


Guilty as charged! It’s so tempting to use that quiet time for anything other than sleep, even though I know I’ll be paying for it later. But I’ve realized that sacrificing sleep isn’t worth it in the long run. 

Sure, it feels like a quick escape, but I end up feeling drained and running on empty, which only makes it harder to keep up with everything the next day.

I’m trying to be more intentional about getting the rest I need. It’s tough, especially when you’re balancing so much, but I know that if I don’t take care of myself, I can’t be the mom I want to be. That quiet time when my child naps? It’s become a time to pause, even if I don’t fall asleep right away.


Sometimes, I just close my eyes, take a few deep breaths, and recharge. I try not to feel guilty for resting during those moments because I know that when I do, I’m giving myself the energy to show up fully for my child, my work, and myself.

It’s all about finding that delicate balance between pushing through and stepping back when I need it. Some days, I need to power through a little bit of tiredness to get things done, but other days, I have to listen to my body and rest.

Knowing when to take a step back is just as important as keeping up the momentum. Sleep may be hard to come by, but finding balance is key—and I’m learning that it’s okay to take care of me, too.

By Fathi Aidiya Farisa